I think about being pregnant a lot, like, a lot. No, I’m not weird, okay maybe I am, but I feel like all the time that I am not pregnant, I have to use preparing myself for pregnancy. It might seem a bit strange as usually a person spends more time not being pregnant than being pregnant. I’ll explain my reasons for this.
When I was pregnant I was terrified of gaining too much weight, well those fears came true, I gained too much weight. When you have all these new hormones surfing through your body, your normal thought process, will power, brain, pretty much normal everything is out the window so I found for me, I couldn’t process my thoughts normally. Instead I just freaked out for the 1st trimester that I was gaining too much (over the recommended amount for 1st trimester weight). I had some people tell me “well, you want to enjoy your pregnancy don’t you? So don’t worry about cravings or about what you eat.” I wish I had not given into that mentality, I regret it to this day. I don’t, however, regret my pregnancy, or the whole experience.
I realized last night, while I was laying in bed that there is no right or wrong way with pregnancy when it comes to weight, cravings, etc etc. Every woman is different and really you should listen to your OWN advice, not someone elses.
I remember talking to a friend back home when I was pregnant, she (she’s much older, 60’s, early 70’s) asked me how I was dealing with my cravings, I told her I was trying to enjoy them but watching my weight and she said that when she was pregnant (which would have been in the 1960’s, 1970’s), her doctor was very strict with her, told her to watch her weight, be very careful about what she ate. So she said it wasn’t easy, it was hard work. Well I didn’t like the sound of that, who likes the sound of “hard work” especially when you’re already pregnant and “enjoying” (eating your cravings) your pregnancy.
For some women, they can eat whatever they want and they will only gain in their belly (which is just baby growing and not excess fat on the mother) and return back to their normal weight after giving birth. For some women, their whole world gets turned upside down and they gain too much weight to never (yet) return back to their normal body weight after birth.
For me, I gain weight everywhere and I gained a lot of weight during my pregnancy, I am ashamed of it, embarrassed because I am a personal trainer and I am supposed to be an example to those around me, yet I have proven that I am just human… BUT, this is why I spend so much time thinking about my next pregnancy. For me I see it as a battle and for some women it is, it’s a battle with your hormones (when it comes to food).
Every time I have a craving, I think of my pregnancy.
Every time I’m exhausted and I don’t feel like working out, I think of my pregnancy.
Every time I feel lethargic and I just want to sleep, I think of my pregnancy.
Every time I feel like slacking off in my workout, I think of my pregnancy.
Every time I am tempted to just “take it easy” and let go of my eating habits, I think of my pregnancy.
Mentally I am guarding myself against those emotional and hormones that will surge my body when I become pregnant.
Now, pregnancy is a WONDERFUL thing, don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to be all depressed about being pregnant here, but it’s not all butterflies and happiness as I thought it would be before I got pregnant. It’s difficult, and some women have vomiting the whole 9 months, it’s not to scare you. I am actually looking forward to the next time I get pregnant ( in due time of course)!
All of these preparations are in relation to food by the way. All the other cravings during pregnancy and all the other little things that come with it are great! (Unless you have morning sickness? lol) I say this because food was my weakness during pregnancy, when I should have been fueling my baby with healthy, high energy, power food. I was eating mostly crap, thank goodness my son turned out okay though and is still as gorgeous as ever! =D
I am also not happy with my doctor, when I was over 40 lbs gained he didn’t say anything to me about my weight, I’m sure he was probably scared of what my reaction would be. I mean, you don’t want to make a pregnant woman mad, but I really wish he would have been more strict. I blame that to today’s society where a doctor won’t say anything to an overweight kid about his weight. Had this been 40 years ago, I’m sure the doctor would have said something. So instead, I have to keep myself liable.
Here is how I am planning on keeping track of my weight and eating for the next pregnancy:
1. Take pictures every week. Pictures help SOOO much when it comes to weight, see where you’re gaining (because that really helps tell you whether you’re gaining too much. I gained in my legs and arms and shoulders, places where I should not have been expanding)
2. Take measurements of areas that you shouldn’t be expanding: arms, shoulders, butt, legs. If you gain a bit not a big deal, but if you see like a 2-5 inch increase, that’s a warning sign!
3. Food log, – SOOOO IMPORTANT. This really helps you see the types of food that you eat, not so much how much you’re eating because eating a lot isn’t a big deal, as long as its good quality high nutrient dense food!
4. Get someone else to go grocery shopping. Seriously, I think this is key, it’s so easy when you’re pregnant to just get whatever you want or whatever you are craving, ah no. Not good.
5. Husband is on the same page and doesn’t get terrified of your emotional breakdowns because you can’t have what you’re craving. Kind of key…. just talk it over…
I might sound like I’m stupid anal about pregnancy, or maybe I should just “relax”. Sorry to people who think that way but like I said earlier, for some women, they have to work during their pregnancy, in the end it will make you happier and your family happier. I can’t tell you how many days I get depressed about my weight and how it affects my husband. My poor husband, he has to constantly encourage me and compliment me so I don’t get entirely suicidal (okay I’m not quite that bad).
Just trying to help all the other ladies out there who have struggled with gaining too much weight during pregnancy and want some help in monitoring it for the future babies! 🙂
Now I will go cuddle my son. (sigh) I love cuddles!
(Side note, here’s a neat article I found that is inspiring! http://www.fitnessatlantic.com/fit-pregnancy.htm)