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When you become a parent, you realize how easy your life was before you had kids. Even in college life was easier (and I went through a hell program, literally), I could sleep in on the weekends, sure I had to study and maybe I had to work, but I could do things independently. (I’m not complaining here, I’m just stating some facts)
Now that I’m married and have a son, I think back to all the things I could have accomplished while single but never did because I didn’t think I could or because I didn’t have the time. How wrong was I! I thought eating healthier wasn’t possible because I was already eating healthy, I thought that I couldn’t lose more weight or get more toned, that I had just plateaued. Boy oh boy, have I surprised myself now! Now that Richard (my son) is born, I have more motivation, more determination and more desire to improve my life, to better myself. I eat cleaner than I thought was ever possible, I push through my workouts like I have never before and somehow I manage to have a hobby of organizing things even with a newborn around? Who thought this was possible?!! It’s amazing, really.
Not exactly what I wanted to say but now I will continue.
Through my facebook and other groups that I like, I see women (especially) who strive to make their bodies look a certain way, which is awesome and props from me! Yet at times I wonder how they can get to a certain age (30’s, 40’s) and not have the desire, or put their desire to have a family below their desire to achieve new things in the way they look. I feel sorry for them, mainly because how your body looks doesn’t last. Sure you can look ripped at 70, but when you get to that age, is that what you will be grateful for? What have you left behind, do you have children or grandchildren you can enjoy your healthy age with?
I see women who are young, (20’s) that achieve these same body looks (ripped) yet what happens to them once they hit a bump in the road? Real life stresses, like relationships, marriage, pregnancy? How do you keep your healthy life on track with all of these? How do you balance finances, housing, food, loans, sickness and still keep your head up when all of these happen? I can definitely say that that ripped body isn’t going to be there throughout all of that and hopefully depression won’t ensue as a result.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that if your goal is to “eat clean”(extreme dieting) and follow a regimented schedule for your ripped body 24/7 and that is your goal for the rest of your life, I hate to break it to you, but that is not living and not even possible (long term.) Having a healthy body is key, and essential to enjoying your life, but tipping the scale so far in the other direction isn’t good. I’ve seen “success” stories of mothers that have had 2 kids, gained lots of weight during pregnancy, lose the weight then go on to be do figure competitions and end up becoming a figure model. Sure, that’s fine, but is that realistic? I definitely would not want to have that lifestyle especially for my kids, I don’t want them growing up thinking that in order to have a healthy lifestyle you have to be ripped. Um, no. Sure is being toned a cherry on top? yeah! By all means, that’s my goal now but I realize that once I get pregnant again I won’t look like that, now I’m not saying one has to get fat when pregnant but keep the balance people! Just like pregnancy is not an excuse to go out and eat whatever the flip you want.
I think as mothers, we have it all. People think our lives have ended because we have chosen to give birth and procreate, but how wrong are they! Since I have become a mother I have learned that I have a will power which I never knew existed before. We have the ability to challenge ourselves in ways that other people do not, but we also have our own little cheerleaders: our children. We have the challenge to work around how many different schedules, to tackle sickness in the house and still keep everyone’s heads up. We have laundry to do, souls and personalities to build yet while at the same time taking care of ourselves, our health, the health of our family. We are a rock in which we must water, to grow and grow. The longer you are a mother, the more of a winner you are in my opinion. Our role in life is so unique and so amazing, to be able to inspire our children through our lifestyles, through our desire to be healthy, to be spiritual and to be good. Our children see this, and it is so important!
My message to all mums out there: Take care of yourself, because your kids will one day look back and say” How on earth did she do that?!And still take care of all of us?” You will be the champion and you will be grateful for it! We have the upper hand in my opinion, and how awesome is that!
This post is going to be long, and informative, just a heads up, maybe bookmark it for future reference? There isn’t as much detail as I would like to get in it but when you have a newborn, some things have to get cut short! I might do a part 2 later on in the week so stay tuned!
I’m going to get down to the nitty gritty about losing weight after having a baby, because so many mums struggle with this, but this is also about other people who have trouble losing weight and need/want to lose a large amount.
1. Set a goal, know what your healthy body weight should be, if you don’t, figure it out, go see a physician, look it up on the internet and set yourself a timeline, now if you need to lose a 100 lbs, at approx 1-2 lb loss a week, it’s going to take you over a year. Healthy weight loss is 1-1.5 lbs a week, 2 weeks at MOST. More than this your risk of gaining weight in return is very high, so don’t rush it (haha I keep telling myself this)
2. Re-orient your life, this is a LIFESTYLE, if you are not ready for it, then you are not serious or ready about losing weight, this is permanent and if you aren’t comfortable with that then say goodbye to being healthy! You will have to make changes and adjustments and sacrifices. If you have kids already, you will have to use your imagination to make it work, if you have 1 child, well you have it pretty easy and if you don’t have kids, holy get your ass in gear cause you have all the time in the world! Though, from my experience, it’s actually easier to workout with kids because when you’re tight on time you don’t think about not working out (because you don’t have the time) you just do it and move on to the next thing!
3. Food. It was a mix up as to whether to put this as number 1, but 3 is close enough. You MUST must must must must must adjust the way you eat, and not only you if you have a family. It must be a change for the WHOLE family otherwise it will not work, if your kids are young, you are better off, if they aren’t…it’s going to be a challenge (they are already used to a way of eating and they are probably not going to like the changes you will make). If you aren’t supposed to eat a food (dieting) then guess what, your kids aren’t supposed to be eating it either!!
I’m not a nutritionist yet but I can provide some simple guidelines for you to follow. Straight up – if you want to lose weight: go gluten and dairy free. Sure that might sound like the end of the world but I’m telling you, it works and your body will love you for it. There’s so much crap in wheat these days (because it is so processed) you think you are getting whole grain but your body still hates it. I say dairy because there’s a lot of fat and the cows proteins just don’t get along with the human body. Also, it’s really not that hard, once you psychologically are prepared for it, it’s a lot easier, you have to think that it’s making your body a healthier body and a healthier you, you will have more energy, your brain will function better, your bowels will function better, everything will function better and doesn’t everyone want that?
2-3 days a week where you meal plan and prepare ALL of your food, this is the only way for you to stay on track (esp on days where you need to run errands so you aren’t going out and buying crap food to eat cause you’re randomly hungry). This is also great if you have kids because guess what! Less cooking for you and there’s always food in the fridge for them(the kids) to eat, it’s great. Less stress! Maybe sit down with the family together and brain storm over some meals that you all like, but face it, there will be times when your family won’t enjoy everything that you cook, but TOO BAD! haha, I say that to my husband because it’s healthy and I enjoy it because of that, tastes buds change.
Just because you have to eat healthy doesn’t mean you have to eat veggie sticks 99% of the time, I can provide lots of links where you can learn to prepare healthy meals that taste GOOD, and are not plain, this is another art but it’s a great tool to have! Another reason I post recipes on this blog because a lot of people struggle with preparing healthy food that taste good. I thank God for my mother teaching me how to cook because that’s the only way I’m able to do this!
Every meal should include carbohydrate, protein and fat, in order for your body to work efficiently, this is needed, unless of course it’s a pre workout meal in which case you don’t want to consume a massive amount of protein. Do not over indulge in meat or grains, always try and have more vegetables if possible but don’t just eat vegetables if you are hungry because they won’t hold you over as much as adding a little bit of protein.
The largest meal of the day should be lunch time, and the lightest meal should be supper time. Do not eat 2 hours before going to bed. If you do happen to be super super super super starving before bed have some vegetables or something light in calories but don’t make it a habit! ‘
If you are really struggling with staying on track eating healthy then keep a food journal, it helps you realize how much you are eating, if you are eating too much, etc etc.
Drink water, 2 L/ 8 cups, put a pitcher out on the table or somewhere you pass often and fill with that amount, every time you go by drink a cup and bam, it’s done by around 4 pm! Or fill a 1 L water bottle twice, I prefer the pitcher method, it becomes more of a habit. If you’re on the road = water bottle.
Take greens! You can get the greens powder, it’s amazing, it helps you get in MORE than your daily recommended dose of greens and it has so many nutrients we are talking serious energy here!
Supplements: Fish oil, Vitamin D and probiotics. See naturopath for more info! (they are worth seeing btw, just admit it.)
If all the above is not really sticking with you – see a naturopath.
If I think of more… it’ll have to be in another post.
4. Workout routine. If you are new to working out, it’s all about baby steps but realize that you cannot effectively lose weight and get your body in optimal health without WEIGHTS mixed with cardio. Gosh it annoys the hell out of me that women are like “weights, wtf? EWWW, no no must go run for 6 hours a week” puhhhlleeeasssee tell me another one. This has been circulating the internet and hopefully women are being converted:
Muscles LOOK BETTER THAN FAT, and you would have to weight train a lot to look like a bulky arnold. That being said, go pick up some weights!
Try to incorporate cardio and weights 3-4x/week.
Invest in a home piece of equipment(Like the TRX) because if you have children, this is the only way you will be able to weight train (unless your hubby looks after the kids in the evening and you go to the gym or classes etc which is a good thing to do once a week to keep your sanity!) Buy some bands, bands rule, they don’t take up any space and they are pretty wicked. If you want to know where to buy some, leave a comment or msg me.
Get your children involved, take them on walks, or hikes, or bike rides or start running with them. Use them as weights!
You don’t have to go out and buy a weight set, get creative and use things around the house, jugs of water etc.
If you have a newborn take the baby with you, utilize one of their naps and go walking or jogging with the stroller!
5. Experiment with what times of the day work best for your schedule, if you are a stay at home mum this is easy for you to do, for those that work it’s either before or after work. Find out which one works for you.
Just like cleaning, working out has got to get done! No question about it, once you get into the routine it’s much easier.
6. Take before and after pictures. This is a great motivator! There’s nothing like seeing how awesome you look and what type of progress you’re making like pictures!! Also, weigh yourself every once in a while, once a month or every two weeks but not too frequently!
Take measurements, this is what you will go by, and how you look in the mirror. I take my measurements every two weeks, but they can be taken every month if that’s how you choose. Bust, hips, waist and legs. If you have large arms take the measurement around your arms if you want.
7. Sit down and talk over all of this with your family (esp hubby or wife) because you must be on the same page, you have to agree that this is going to take time, effort and motivation, if your spouse or significant other isn’t there to motivate you, you can still do it but it will be more difficult!
Remember, this is a lifestyle!
Don’t hesitate to ask me any questions!
Last year I an idea stemmed to look into holistic nutrition, the idea really attracted me because ive never been sold by the common 4 yr university nutrition program, I’ve met a few and they didn’t really give me a good impression. Yet I’ve come across a few registered holistic nutritionists and boy is the impression impressive! It’s everything I want and I think I need, being gluten and dairy free- nutrition is different for me, my husband has been recommended to go gluten free as well and something keeps tugging at my head that I don’t know enough for myself and my family.
My pregnancy was a disaster food wise and I think I will constantly regret that. I am compelled to know more about food and what it does. If you are what you eat then I need to eat better, the best I possibly can and encourage my family to do the same.
Now- will it be challenging doing this while having a newborn? Um yes, though if I do it I will take the at home correspondence program because living outside the city I can’t simply drive in for classes a couple times a week, too much gas and too much time away from my family.
To think of all that I could learn is sooo exiting, it’s like being given keys to unlock a chest full of gold!! I’ve never had this ambition to learn like this before, when I went to college I was excited but not this excited.
Think of all the wonderful things I could share with you all!! I’ll end on that note. 😉
Unfortunately I have to make this quick. One of my coworkers in on leave, and the other one is going back to school in september which means… work is gonna pick up and I’ve already had two new clients just today in addition to class planning.
Dieting: What is your definition of a diet? What do you think when you hear the word diet?
I dunno bout you, but this is what comes to mind when I hear the words:
Goodness forbid you are following something in Women’s world
First of all, you have to ask yourself, why are you going on a diet? To lose weight of course!! Oh right, and yes nutrition is an absolutely essential ingredient to losing weight, in fact you can trigger weight loss through nutrition without exercising in the beginning stages of weight loss package.
However, if you want to lose weight, ask yourself, what made you gain weight in the first place? Think about your how your diet has been for the past 6-12 months, how have you been eating? Have you been stressed? Emotional trauma? Got lazy? Starting eating out more often, came into more money and wanted to treat yourself out more frequently? Or perhaps your pay cheque has downsized for whatever reason and you think that you can no longer “eat healthy” due to how expensive it is, so your waistline has increased.
Seriously, think about it.
You’ve realized you aren’t happy with your waist line and you have a wedding coming up, you want to look great! But you don’t fit into those awesome dresses you own, so you’ve got to lose x amount of weight in about 2 months. You google the most effective diet out there and you subscribe and pay what you need to pay to lose that weight. You’ll do anything to lose that weight! You JUST need to get it off in time!
Okay. Back to reality, we’ve all been there, we’ve all gained weight at some point in time or another and we all have that desire to have the snap of the finger weight loss but going down that road simply is not an option. The media shoves it into our face that we can partake in these diets that will make us lose fat instantly! So many dress sizes etc but you have to take care of your body, what’s realistic for you? Because let me tell you
DIETING IS NOT THE ANSWER
It’s not the answer for these reasons
When you “go” on a diet, it’s a temporary fix, you want to lose the weight, you’re willing to make sacrifices right now, but you definitely don’t want to stop the way you are eating.
Depending on the type of diet you go on, reducing x amount of calories or watching what you eat, or eating fat free foods is absolutely not good for your body. Your depriving your body of essential nutrients that it needs. For example: weight watchers, it’s all about calories, you can have something low in calories that has absolutely no complex carbohydrates in it, so you’re basically eating nothing. Yeah that’s good for your blood sugar.
Your body isn’t meant to be deprived and then loaded again. Don’t deprive yourself of so many calories or fats or whatever and then go load yourself up after your diet.
You will never maintain a regular healthy lifestyle if you diet because dieting is not stable.
It’s all about maintaining a healthy lifestyle, if you want to lose weight it’s in supplementation with a healthy lifestyle in which you should eat regularly healthily and exercise regularly, until you are ready to make that adjustment then stay away from diets because you’re only taking years off your life.
It’s all in your head! Try and make the decision for the better! It’s about lifestyle, not a quick fix, quick fixes don’t exist in our world.